About 2 weeks ago I met this guy. He's 19 (I'm 21), just moved to NYC a few months ago from VT. We immediately start talking a lot - spending entire days texting - and make plans to hang out. We go to dinner and movie, and have this amazing connection! It's so rare for me that I'll actually like somebody but I found myself really falling for him, really quickly. That night after our first date, he's texting me and says "I'm so happy we met!! You have no idea! Tonight was the best I've felt since I've been here! I think you're so cool! I can't even explain how comfortable I felt with you and how uncomfortable I've been since I've been in New York. Can we hang out soon??" So I tell him that I felt the same way. He says "I really like you a lot!". Aside from the fact that I found myself liking him in a way I haven't liked someone in years, I thought it was really cool that he was so honest and genuine. So we make plans for the next day. We go to dinner and then back to his apartment.
I think it was then that I started to notice things and come to the conclusion that he has Aspergers. I don't know that for a fact, however I absolutely know he does. He has all the signs of it. He had told me that he has basically no friends here and he doesn't really have many back home either. At dinner, he's telling me things like he wants me to go back home with him to VT for a weekend at the end of the month, and saying things like "This person I work with really wants to meet you!". So we go back to his place. He seemed pretty nervous, but I was too. I noticed that he had taped to his wall the movie ticket from the movie we saw the day before AND the matchbook from the restaurant we went to!! After hanging out for a while, we decide to watch a movie while lying in his bed. FINALLY things started to happen! We had our arms and legs all around each other, I had my head on his shoulder, he was holding my hand. It felt amazing. The entire night, we fall asleep in each others arms. Halfway through the night, he woke up and just pulled me closer to him and we kissed.
In the morning, things felt weird. He was being really weird and silent. I was only there for like 15 minutes before leaving, and he didn't even walk me to the door or to the elevator or anything! I had a weird vibe. But then by the time I got to the subway, I had 3 texts from him saying what a great time he had! The next day, I was pretty busy but we continue texting all the time, and make plans for the following day. He said he wanted me to model for him (He's a photographer, I'm a model).
When I got off the train to meet him, I had 6 texts from him! He sounded so anxious to see me, saying things like "Are you almost there???" and "I'm just going to buy cigarettes real quick but I'll be right back, 2 seconds, so don't worry!!". I felt SO good about everything! So I meet up with him, and he's being weird and silent, and it's difficult to get a conversation started. So we go to his place to take pictures. Finally, he loosened up and we started laughing our asses off and having a great time and being flirty. At one point, we were lying on his bed and he was lying with his head on my shoulder and stuff. It was weird though...he kept flipping back and forth between between being weird and being cool, it was literally like clockwork, every 30 minutes or so! So we go outside for a cigarette and he says to me "I'm probably just going to edit these pictures and go to bed tonight", which I didn't like so I said "Um do you want me to leave or something...?". He says "Yeah, after this cigarette". ?!?! So we go upstairs and he says "So, what are we gonna do tonight?" WTF??
So we decide to watch a movie. It was SO strange. For the first like 30 mins of the movie, he had his arm around me, was playing with my hair, being really sweet. And then, all of a sudden...he just stopped. He started moving away from me, which really confused me because nothing happened! I'd move my arm next to his, he'd move his away. He was moving so far away that he nearly fell off the bed! And then... he asks me to spend the night. ON AN AIR MATTRESS!!! As soon as he said that, I moved far away from him and just waited for the movie to end. Now I was the one acting weird and distant and giving one word answers. I was hoping he'd ask why or confront it but he didn't. So I just left as soon as the movie ended...having to go home all the way from the East Village to the Upper West SidI'm SO confused by this guy I'm involved with! I feel miserable and don't know what to do. Please help :(?
Time to move on I'm afraid. You have tried everything you can with this guy and he has thrown it all back. Don't waste any more time as you still have a life to lead. You sound a really decent guy and you do need to move on. I am sure you will find someone soon who really does want to be with you. I hope this helps.I'm SO confused by this guy I'm involved with! I feel miserable and don't know what to do. Please help :(?
Wow... thats really cute. thats alot of typeing to i bet lol jk
go to him and be all like wassup!?! %26amp;%26amp; talk to him about it?I'm SO confused by this guy I'm involved with! I feel miserable and don't know what to do. Please help :(?
Learn to be patient. Good things come to those who wait.
J
been there. done that..u poor thing. maybe he does have some feelings for u but just afraid to admit? is it a bad timing for him?like he just got out of a relationship or something? i really think u should stop telling him how u really feel, u like him,miss him.. something like that..it's only gonna push him away..i think u should act cool..just hang out with him,talk,laugh and see how it goes..(only if u still think he's worth the wait).. and good luck!!^^
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