Why is my boyfriend doing this?

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My boyfriend of 3 years decided 2 weeks ago that we need to go on a break. He says the main reason is that I was bringing up the future too much (I asked if he wanted to make a reservation at a restaurant that needed a year in advance, wanted to go on vacation, and when I slept at his dad's apt in nyc I said it felt like our place...but nothing w/ marriage etc) and that we both needed to see what was out there because were "only 22". He said he couldn't make any long term commitments to me but he is assuming I CAN, which isn't true. We both just graduated college, started new jobs, moved back home otherwise known as CHANGE and he is going through what I think is a "quarter life crisis". It was obviously much easier to have a relationship in college but we only live an hour away and will both be working in nyc together starting in September. (he works now but I will be starting).



We agreed to re-evaluate the situation in October and he has approached my best friends for advice/confidence. He says he misses me a lot and is extremely confused and needs space and time to figure everything out. His best friend told me the same thing (I know him well and he wouldn't lie to me plus he told me I could come to him for anything and called me before my boyfriend to see if I was okay when he found out we broke up lol).



The hardest part of this is that I HAVE gone out on dates. I have a pretty busy schedule with friends, work, family, me time and I managed to squeeze in 2 dates since we broke up. But the dates didn't do anything for me (not because I was comparing to my ex) because I just don't feel interested in getting out there plus I am in love so that makes it harder. At least I gave them a try though. I'm really using these 2 months to focus on myself which has totally opened my eyes to how I am as a person and how independent I can be and how no man can give me feelings I can give myself.



However, I miss him dearly and cry almost everyday because we are two peas in a pod. I don't think I'd ever be able to duplicate what we had and I know he couldn't.



Any advice? I wanna know if any men think he will come back?Why is my boyfriend doing this?
if he is only 22 and straight out of college you both have a lot of living in front of you



a lot fo things are in front of you and tying yourself down may not be right for him right now



the old agade of letting something free and see if it comes back is apprpriate



its still a heart breaker though, sorryWhy is my boyfriend doing this?
so you wanted commitment he didnt....

you cant change how he feels

he will come around when he wants %26amp; if he doesn't, it wasn't meant to be.Why is my boyfriend doing this?
there is someone else