What does she want? What's her agenda?

Known each other for 6 months, and are close. She models, as a result travels 3-4 days a week. But we manage to always have dinner and phone each other often. She's known I have feelings for her, but is adamant nothing can happen as we're not the same religion (she's very religious). And says she will always only see me as a friend. We've had breaks because of it. Three weeks ago, we mutually agreed to another break, but she thought it was permanent, and later said I "broke up" with her. She was crying alot, and later confessed that she took the present she got for me, and broke it with a hammer, before throwing it away.



I realized it was a mistake, the next day I drove to the airport to make up. Since then, she's made me promise to stop leaving her. She confessed that she's been depressed since it happened. She's calling and texting almost everyday. On one particular day, she called me for an hour before she left for the airport, then an hour while she was at the airport, then when she got to her hotel room. A few days ago, she told me she was thinking of being less religious, but wouldn't say why. She's asked me to a charity event last week, and cd release party at a lounge but I was busy. She said she had to leave for NYC, but would be back on Monday, and asked if I wanted to have dinner with her then, I agreed to that, and suggested a restaurant. Finally, last Thursday, she made me lunch to take to the office. I could tell she took alot of time, it was arranged beautifully. It seems like she's putting alot more effort into us, but is it because she wants to be better friends, or have a romantic relationship?What does she want? What's her agenda?
I think at this point, she wants to have a romantic relationship with you....especially since she told you she wanted to be less religious. If you want my opinion, (of course you do) this chick is a flake and I would keep my distance.



You sound like a nice, well grounded gentleman. When you guys called it off and she put it on you, she was trying to reverse the tables and make you feel bad. Know what I mean? Then she proceeds to make you promise her that you will stop leaving her. And all that texting and calling - this chick is very needy. Beware of needy women, my friend!



Finally, she can't be too religious if she's now thinking about being less religious. She sounds too wishy washy and needy. You say you have feelings for her. Well, I would weigh my pros and cons. Sounds like she has a lot of cons.



Just tell her that you want her to be very sure before you get seriously committed to her. Tell her to take some time and get to know herself and reflect on her religion a little more. You'll be doing yourself a favor dude.



And don't call her in the meantime as this sends out mixed messages. She's already mixed up. Don't add to it. Okay?



I hope I helped. Let me know what happens
Long story wow!!What does she want? What's her agenda?
if this girl is normal she is doing the devious things a lot of girls do. take advantage of knowing that you have feelings for her.

however, the best way to solve this mysterious girl is just ask her straight out. because if she doesn't want a romantic relationship she obviously wants to be a good friend and most likely she'll laugh it off
Summary to 5 lines and ill read.What does she want? What's her agenda?
Making you lunch, constant calling, meeting for dinner.

That's a push going towards romance. Don't make her do all the work though. If you really like this girl you gotta make an effort to meet her halfway, don't just let her make all the dinner arrangements and since she made you lunch maybe surprise her with breakfast sometime this week.
She needs you in her life and will do almost anything to keep you there. The only reason she is so persistent now is because you have shown that you don't need her as much. You may be able to start a relationship with her, but if she has to change her life too much for it to happen, she could end up resenting you for it. Your best net is to sit down with her and ask her directly about the situation.



good luck!
She obviously has no idea what she wants.

Be supportive and hold up on trying to see method in her madness.

Women aren't very good at being calculated in their actions, which is why we tend to confuse guys.

We don't have objectives when we do stuff, it's a lot of spontaneity.

Just give her some time to figure stuff out.
I'd say she likes you romantically, b/c I'd never put that muc effort into a guy I'm only friends with. But there seems to be something that's holding her back. Maybe her career, religion, the fact that you two seem serious %26amp; perhaps she can't handle that, or all 3 lol. Being "less religious" is a sign that she wants to bend/break some rules to be with you. The fact that she travels a lot might put a damper on a very serious relationship, so I under her hesitance.. But I think she's just afraid of seriousness in general. Talk to her, find out the bottom line. Tell her you can read through her poker face, and you don't buy the "just friends" line. If she doesn't budge, I'd say either be patient until she's comfortable, or find yourself someone who's not afraid to commit. Good luck!
This girl has issues. You should be careful. This is not normal behavior. Do you really want her to give up her religion if it is so important to her? Is this something she will hold against you in the future. This is a strange situation. I would take a step back.
aargh you idiot! she obviously loves you!



religion is massive when it comes to love, as some people have grown up their whole lives following a certain set of rules/beliefs and a lot of the time you can't just go and be with someone from another religion.

i am christian, and i have an aunt who loved a man who was muslim, but because their religions were so important to them they broke up. she was devastated and was really depressed, but in her mind she couldn't be with him because she could not turn her back on her beliefs



i think she has a problem along the same lines. if you want your relationship to work, one of you is going to have to sacrifice your religion. i would say you should both ignore your religions, but this isn't realistic, as most people would be very unwilling to do it



this might be one of the biggest decisions of your life :S



just make sure you're making the right decision, and neither of you winds up in hell/whatever other place for abandoning what could potentially be the *true* belief