Something happened....the date...the unbottoning...etc.. LADIES help!!?

ok well on saturday night I asked my fiance' for a date and well I had planned everything out (we live in NYC) I was going to take her to this Fabulous Italian restaurant which she ADores!!! and then we were just going to walk around Manhattan a bit maybe go to park avenue and talk and walk and then I would take her to this special french pastry shop which my friend owns ITS AMAZING!! and usually Its always filled but we did it so we sat down had some of her fav. pastries which she was in love with hahah and so was I! after that we just talked and then I asked her to come over to my place... and she got excited and was like of course smiling excitedly so apartment is a very big loft in Manhattan so the views are spectacular and well I had put arrows on the floor for her reaching to the balcony when she got in the house hahah she loved it.. the balcony on the top of the Table in the balcony was some great wine and cheese and all etc... so we just leaned against the wall and drank and just talked and talked and talked (about her day/week....ect, but I love it :) ) and well she said lets go in its a big cold so we went in and she was like "is it ok if I change?" and i said "of course love go ahead." so she came back with hah some amazing sexy Lingerie from V.S it was black laced it had strings on the back and it had that thing that they wear on there legs haha Iwas stunned! my reaction was "WOW" and she giggled and ran to the couch and said "well, since we are waiting for marriage I dont think it will hurt teasing each other now would it??" and I couldn't help my self I just went and sat next to her we talked and talked again and then she slowly leaned over me started kissing my chest and I started kissing her neck and I slowly kissed on the chin and finally to her lips it was a very passionate kiss (we had not seen each other for 2 weeks before this date!) her heartbeat was getting really fast her breathing quickened and I let go of her lips and went down to her neck again her Colour bone and she pulled me up and started kissing again it was if I may say so the BEST kiss ever! ! I play with her hair alot when we kiss and she loves it but then I just reached for the back of the ling ire and started pulling on the satin strings and opened them up one by one I was half way through but I stopped and just went up and pushed her down till I was on top of her kissing her... i dont know what it was but my lips would not leave her hahaha and then she took my shirt off and well yeah... and then I complete unstrapped the lingerie from her and well we were both half naked both then she reached for my pants.... and FINALLY some sense went into me and I pulled her slowly up with myself and kissed her lightly and said "im sorry I cant do this to you" and she said "I know... im sorry its all my fault! aghhhh" and then she started crying saying "im not good enough for you, you are so sweet that you would not even try such a thing on me, im sry i love you so much im not good enough" and then she got up and went to the bedroom and well I ran after her and told her everything was fine she should not worry about it at alll!! and that she was too good for me and that I was a very lucky guy to get such a sweet beautiful smart gorgeous girl like her and that im lucky that she has the same feelings for me as I do for her, but she just said im sorry her voice cracking and kissed me goodnight.

I DONT KNOW WHAT HAPPENED!!! why did she cry??!!

we are both waiting for marriage to have sex.Something happened....the date...the unbottoning...etc.. LADIES help!!?
Okay. Wow. So many of your questions are very similar. You've already asked one almost identical to this before! Do things repeatedly happen in your life?



Ahh! Do I smell a troll, perhaps?
she's crazySomething happened....the date...the unbottoning...etc.. LADIES help!!?
Maybe she felt bad about herself because she was ready to have sex and since your engaged doesn't want to wait anymore. When you were the one who stopped it and not her she felt really bad about herself like you are more committed to waiting than she is and that is why she cried.

Sex is very intimate for women and when they try to take the initiative and it is rejected on some level it is very upsetting for us. Just try to understand that and don't get frustrated with her being upset (especially if she has never done it before).
It is still difficult when you are in the heat of the moment to pull away. There have been times when my boyfriend and I have been close and though we want to wait I almost want to cry because I almost was able to have that pleasure and it was taken away from me.



If she had stopped it there would be no big deal, but she didn't. It just hurts... she almost let herself do it. The one time she was willing to give it up before marriage and it was denied. The women are the ones who are supposed to say no not the men... "You are to good for me". It hurt her pride in more than one way. She was supposed to be the one to stop things, but she might not have and she knows that.Something happened....the date...the unbottoning...etc.. LADIES help!!?
Here's what I think its either she got really embarrassed because she initially was only planning to "tease" you and ended up really wanting to do it with you, and then it seemed like you chickened out, but in reality you were just trying to be polite and slow things down before actually doing it before the marriage thing.



Or , I hate to break this to you but she may be hiding a secret that she's starting to feel guilty about. Why else would she say I don't deserve you?



The only way you can really find out and get an exact answer is to talk to her.
she probably felt like she was pushing you.

its easy for women to feel like they dont deserve something.



[and from what i read, you seem like a great guy. you rarely find guys who will wait until marriage and set up romantic nights.]

acura tsx