So confused if he likes me or not?

please only respond if you are in your twenties or older..



im 23 and i started seeing this guy this week, hes 33. he was engaged to his ex fiance and they split up sometime in july. hes a good friend of my cousins fiance. anyway ive never dated anyone before cause im really shy but for some reason i feel comfortable around him, and i think i like him. on tuesday i was at his house with my friend and one of his friends, and its the first time we ever really talked or hung out.



he kissed me a couple times n then after i left sent me text mesages saying that he liked me. he wanted me to come visit him at work the next day,( i didnt because i was tired) and i met up with him on friday again. and we were kissing at the bar n stuff and he was touching my hair and being so sweet!



i met up with him again last night. he wanted to see me saturday and sunday but i told him i was tired. sooo last night i texted him, because i didnt want him to think that i didnt like him, im just shy. so i went to visit him at work (he works at a restaurant) and i basically stayed there from 7 til the time he got out..at like 10. then we drank together n a couple of our friends stopped by. eventually we left together and went to his house.



we made out on his couch and i think we both wanted to have sex but we didnt. he told me that he doesn't want anything serious cause hes always had a girlfriend, and i think hes still hurting over his ex fiance, although he says hes not. hes like i dont wanna hurt you, you're a nice girl. i don't know what to take this as!!!! i'm so picky and i seriously NEVER date any guys EVER, and when i finally allow myself to be open to one, this is what happens.



he hasnt texted me yet today, hes in nyc for an interview though. im so annoyed and upset and i don't know what to do! any advice would be very appreciated.So confused if he likes me or not?
He said he doesn't want anything serious.



That sounds a bit like he's trying to make you beg for it --- he wants to be in control and. he wants you to be the needy one.



Don't contact him, let him be the one to innate a conversation --- ask him if he is sure that he doesn't want anything serious --- if he doesn't 鈥?then, let him know he's not what you're looking for.So confused if he likes me or not?
Ask him EXACTLY what he meant by it. Or you'll never know and you'll drive yourself crazy wondering. Ask him how it went and go see him when he gets back.. Just talk before you make out or go all the way and find yourself really emotionally attached to him.. Tell him you like him a lot but that you dont wanna get hurt either so is he still hung up on his ex or not. Best bet is to be open or you'll be asking yourself asking all these questions and not knowing where you are with him.So confused if he likes me or not?
im 18, don't know if you could use my advice or not, but to me it seems like he's playing games. you don't know what he's doing out of town, or even if he's telling you the full truth. he might try to use your shyness as something that could benefit him one day. and plus he's 10 years older than you. its fine on a maturity level but you never know what he's thinking or planning to do. hope this helps.