Technically you are the host and she is the guest. That means YOU be a good host regardless of whether you receive a thank-you or not.
That being said, after TWO WEEKS your sister is no longer a "guest" in my book and is more like a roommate. It's time for her to be a good guest, pay her way or LEAVE.
Why has she been there so long? Fish and house guests stink after three days.
If this really bothers you, be subtle and polite, but cut off the gravy supply. Don't volunteer to take her any more places, don't buy her any more stuff, don't get any restaurant food. Tuck away your credit cards and all but a very few bucks, so that if she does want to go out, you can tell her you've maxed out your Visa and only have a couple of dollars and some change with you.
She will either step up to the plate and do something nice in return, like a good guest, or she'll decide it's time to head for home.My sister never tells me thank you after i pay for things?
When I do things for my mother it actually annoys me when she says thank you because I don't want a thank you for something that I should be doing anyway. Perhaps your sister is like me, just not into the thank yous. Is not saying thank you really a good enough reason for you to stop doing nice things for your own family? Nice usually means doing something without expecting anything in return, even a thank you. If she is just not saying thank you but is still nice to you then you should let it go and keep on doing these things. Different people have different ways of appreciating what others do, you just happen to be one of those people that nees to hear thank you, your sister may show her thanks in other ways other than saying it, you just need to look out for what that is. One person needs to hear the words "I love you" but to another person words are hollow without actions. Perhaps the fact that she is staying with you and going out with you is her way of saying
"I want to spend time with my little sister," she is 35 so that's a different mind set to what you have. Take care and keep doing nice things, that's what family does
She's 10 years older than you and you are treating her for two weeks. Don't stop just because she is not thanking you. Stop because you don't want to do it as much anymore, if that's the case. Maybe you should have a little manners 101 talk. " When someone buys you something, takes you out, gives you a compliment, you should say thank you. When you want something you should say please. When someone says thank you you should say you are welcome. Didn't we learn this when we were little? Sister, it seems like you forgot your manners. What happened?"My sister never tells me thank you after i pay for things?
Here is the different. People normally say Thank You! after dinner or after a movie or after they receive a present or after someone gave them a ride, whatever it is. And when we're away, either travel or visiting family and friends. We usually gave them a big Hug! and a big Thank You! when we leave. I am sure your sister will Thank! you for everything.
If your motivation was truly because you like doing nice things thanks would be unimportant.
well to me saying thank you is just a word. So ill just let it go
be like "your welcome" and maybe she will remember to say "oh thank you"
Let It Go. Be glad you even have a sister.
time for her to go home she is very ungrateful
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