This relationship is so complicated....what does she want!?!?!?

We've known each other for 6 months, and are close friends. She models, as a result travels 3-4 days a week. But we manage to have dinner about once a week, and phone each other often. She's always known I have feelings for her, but is adamant nothing can happen as we're not the same religion (she's very religious). And says she will always only see me as a friend. We've had breaks because of it. Two weeks ago, we agreed to another break, but she thought it was permanent, and later said I broke up with her. She was crying alot, and later confessed that she took the present she got for me, and broke it.



I realized it was a mistake, the next day I drove to the airport to make up. Since then, she's made me promise to stop leaving her. She's calling and texting almost everyday. On one particular day, she called me for an hour before she left for the airport, then an hour while she was at the airport, then when she got to her hotel room. A few days ago, she told me she was thinking of being less religious, but wouldn't say why. She's asked me to a charity event last week, but I wasn't in town. Tonight, she asked if I wanted to join her at a cd release party, but again, I couldn't. She said she had to leave for NYC tomorrow, but would be back on Monday, and asked if I wanted to have dinner with her then, she had the whole week free next week, which doesn't happen often. I agreed to that, and suggested a restaurant. Finally, yesterday, she made me lunch to take to the office. I could tell she took alot of time, it was arranged beautifully.



I am wondering if the last two weeks, she's realizing that we should be together. But I am not sure if she's just trying to be a better friend. We were always close, but it seems like she's making an effort. What do you think she wants from our relationship? And what should I plan for next week?This relationship is so complicated....what does she want!?!?!?
It sounds like originally, she was dropping a lot of hints to try and get you to change for her, so she could fully accept you. But now it sounds like she's come to terms with it, and is going to "relax" so to speak, about her religion so she can be with you. It sounds like she's dropping a lot of hints, but they're very subtle and you have to read between the lines.



It sounds like she's very confused, and she wants you in her life, but doesn't know how to fully make it work.



Has she confessed her love for you? Have you confessed to her? Do you plan to? These are the things you need to think about. Girls want security in a relationship and she needs to know if you'll be there for her. If she's thinking about settling down with you, she needs to know that you'll accept her when she does.
**** her brains out and give her the best licking she ever had lmaoThis relationship is so complicated....what does she want!?!?!?
...tell her you've been fishing and show her your 'Trouser" trout !
go to the movies with herThis relationship is so complicated....what does she want!?!?!?
She may want to be more than friends. that "less religious" part should clue u in.

I'm religious and told myself I'd nvr even date a guy who wasn't the same religion, but then I crushed on a guy who idk if he was religious or not and thought about ammending the 'no dating other religions' thing.
Well if she is upset about you breaking up with her, and she asks you not to do it anymore how are you confused? I don't get what your unsure about. To me it seems simple she asked you not to break up with her anymore, that would mean that she wants to be with you as more than a friend doesn't it?
Why not plan a night of romantic gestures but yet friendly at the same time. Don't be too pushy. And you have to remember, 6 months isn't that long of a time to decide if you want to be with someone in some cases, especially when religion is in play. She wants to respect her religion but respect you as well which can cause much confusion in one's mind. Plan a night to let her know how you truly feel, ask her if she feels the same. Tell her if she wants this to work as more than friends she has to be committed and not change her mind and say just stay friends.. you also have to be on the same boat. If neither of you want that, than maybe you need to cut each other out of one another's lives for a few weeks/months until you can really piece together what you want from one another.
aww thats soo sweet.

from what you've said i think that she is trying to meet you half way, by lightning up on the religious side, and maybe you should too. the fact that she calls you so many times on such a busy schedule proves she misses you and likes you a lot. i think she wants to be with you and good luck in the future.
She seems so sweet, but manic, confused...could have alot to do with her schedule, all the traveling associated with her job has got to be stressful and she needs you to be her anchor...i cant say if she is in love with you because i don't know enough about how yall are together...

plan something that is just regular ol stuff, not fancy or overdone, cuz she goes out all the time...how about cook her a nice dinner and rent a romantic comedy?
I think she wants a little more but don't push her as she needs time to make sure that she's sure herself. give her a little time and then ask her out straight what she wants. you'll need to know for yourself.
next week maybe you should take her some place seculded like a beach or even a movie at home and talk to her you can never know what she wants if you dont ask her get all the questions

are we together?

do you want a relationship or your trying to be a better friend?

why do you want to be less religious?

make it a conversation not an argument, get everything out because its unfair fo you to sit and wonder what she wants and her behevior is confusing for you.

go get em
Religion is a toughie...



I always wonder this though: even if you love someone why would you give up your faith in God? How can you be come "less religious?"



Sure you can let things slide, and decide what rules to break but is she truly becoming "less religious" by doing so? If I were you I would ask her that. Why does she feel she has to give up her faith to be with you? Every single day people marry out of their faith and they make it work. I don't recall God saying (in ANY bible) Thou shalt not marry a muslim or a buddhist or an atheist. It's a man-made rule so it can be bent as far as Im concerned.



I would imagine that this religion conflict may be the route of your on again off again relationship because religion tends to be a source of guilt.



Obviously you care for this girl - you sound pretty devoted, but my question for you would be are you really okay with coming second to someone's career and third to their religion? It sounds awful to say this but you are not this girl's priority so how can she ask you not to leave her and be so clingy with you - sounds to me like she is a little selfish...like she wants her cake and wants to eat it too. Relationships take sacrifice and until she has proven she is willing to sacrifice as much as you have I would say don't plan your wedding vows quite yet. I would, however, plan a nice long chat for some point next week.