Should I have kissed his butt more being he was going to Afghanistan?

I knew this guy online for close to a year, we finally met face to face a week ago and he seem totally opposite personality wise compared to his sweet demeanor online and through phone and text. When I met up with him two of his cuz and cuz gf was with him, he was already fired up (meaning drunk) he told us where we were going and I said I should've put on heels..he barked "Just get in the car"..idk the way he said it made my heart sank, so we having small talk he compliments me on my looks then starts pulling my hair demanding that I will never cut it and swearing out I am saving my celibacy because of him...he said he is a persuasive dude, so I was like well u met your match..fast forward we at the restaurant 8 of us..and mind u this is the first time i ever seen him face to face but I'm with him and 8 other people this dude for the most part ignored me and was talking to his boys.he kept rubbing my thigh, then pulled at my boot and whispered in my ear "you got your f**K me boots on"? he act like he was joking I say Excuse me! and he back down..him and his boys got up so many times he come back smelling more like smokes, he tells me he is going to Afghanistan (he is in the military) i didn't know what to think because he seem so nice online in person he a jokester but with azzhole flavor but idk if its 'cause he high or not..this dude literally jumped on my back at the dinner table play fighting with me, blowing in my ear kissing my neck trying to feed me and i felt uncomfortable because i just met him and he is acting like this in front of his friends and I was kinder embarrassed! We went to this arcade, lawd we barely had any communication, but this dude was the most affectionate person I ever encountered in my life and he thought I didn't see him, but he looked at me like he wanted to have sex right then and there.. I notice after all of us went to this arcade and came back outside when the attention wasn't on him he would walk away from us, soon as I showed him attention he was cool again. He says I don't want to impose but can I spend the night I said that's up to you we can play Wii (I wasn't ready to have sex with him) he gives me the eye.. and i guess call himself playing around asking me what I would do if he threw my cat out the window, I didn't think that was cute!..overall he didn't come but we text close to 2pm the next day I did notice I always have to initiate text and phone convos with him so it kinda aggravated me! We were suppose to meet after the gym but i was upset 'cause I felt like I was chasing him so I briefly hung out with my girlfriend, after the gym 7hrs later like at 8 30pm i text him to tell him I am with my girlfriend and say what's up (and the only reason I did that is because my girlfriend suggested it, but i didn't want to considering I literally intitated every phone convo accept only 1 when he called me just to say he was downstairs the previous day). The following day I text him again it was his last day in nyc, no response right away but he responds we suppose to meet on his last day but he never gets back to me...I felt like despite he acted like a azz when I met him I figure maybe it was just that he was high and there were too many people around to talk on a real one to one basis...I was so upset I deleted him off my facebook and deleted his number as well...Do you think I should've been more persistent with him like soon as I finished with the gym.. text him right away, do you think if I did he would've never threw me to the left..I'm wrecking my brain and kicking my own self in the *** over this! Should I have kissed his butt more being he was going to Afghanistan?Should I have kissed his butt more being he was going to Afghanistan?
anyone can cover their real self on computer and phone. i'd say get away from him as fast as you can. if it just came up for the first time that he was going to Afghanistan he was just telling you that because he wanted to get in your pants faster. are you so desperate that you would want a guy that treats you that wayShould I have kissed his butt more being he was going to Afghanistan?
The farther away from that loser you can get the better off you are.Should I have kissed his butt more being he was going to Afghanistan?
OMG



Girl, he wanted to get LAID. You can't be that dumb. From the first time you chatted with him on-line, it's all he wanted .... to ... have .... sex.



There are probably 20 more girls he was seeing. You think you're the only chick he was chatting with/meeting up with?



seriously ...