Friday, February 10, 2012

I need help! 10 points best long answer?

So I'm friends with this girl and we're very close, I told her 6 months ago that I liked her but she said she didn't have time to date me (works 3 jobs including med school and nursing) and she got out of a 5 year bad relationship in which she was physically and mentally abused. I understood but persisted my advance for more than just friends until I realized she was with another guy she didn't tell me about, but they weren't dating just dating, no sex. I stoppee talking to her because I felt I ruined the friendship and was lied to, I felt worthless. So I got over it and after 5 months I texted her drunk and she was very happy I texted her. We been talking (as friends) I hungout with her twice the first week then I decided to step it up and took her to NYC to a very nice restaurant and we had a great night drinking. She was smiling playing with her hair touching me a lot which never usually happened. Ever since we been texting all day everyday and she is way more enthusiastic about our conversations and we hangout everytime I ask. (before she'd be busy or ditch me) only thing is I text her first all the time but she always thinks she's bothering me if she texts me so idk. She's been talking about how much she can't stand guys and realized so much about men wanting to get in her pants and don't like her for her and her ex bf being a douche bag. She's 21 and I'm 20 so she keeps texting me from the bar telling me how she can't wait until I'm 21 so we can go out all the time. She changed a lot toward me since we stopped talking but for the better and I told her I just want to stay friends (just to keep things on an unawkward level) so I was wondering if she likes me now or how I should go about this. She doesn't talk about boys anymore around me unless it's celebrities and doesn't refer to me like I'm one of her friends but I don't want to get ahead of myself. Help!

Also in NYC she claimed she was done with relationships for awhile but would not have a problem with sex if it was exclusive Between her and...(I feel like she was trying to open things up to me) anyway shes been telling me about her nightmares and she's scared to sleep and I tell her it's not a problem for me to "keep her company" and she said "sounds good:)" in a text but never acted on it. And I said goodnight she just said ":)"

I'm a musician and I made her a song while we weren't talking on my guitar and I showed it to her and she said how she was "so taken back by it" couldnt hurtI need help! 10 points best long answer?
Yeah, she likes you! She was also probably wanting you to make the first move, which is why she's been dropping hints like crazy. Women subconsciously like men to be in control, and on the same level men tend to prefer being in control. Sometimes the roles are reversed, but speaking as a generalization, this is the way it is. So men are stuck with the awkward position of "Does she like me, should I ask her out?" and women are stuck with the position of "If he likes me, why doesn't he ask me out?"



What it comes down to is, yes, ask her out!I need help! 10 points best long answer?
Whoa buddy that's some story. Ok, i'll try to answer. This girl and yourself are young, im only 22 so I can't say much but i've been married and divorces so I can have some validity in what I say in relationships. When you first started talking she was probably not interested in you for whatever reason and didn't feel the need to let you know about her personal decisions, which is her right as a single female. She isn't obligated to tell you everything. Now, about the reconnect. She is obviously interested in you or she wouldn't keep dropping hints. She may be dropping them so bluntly because she want you to know that shes interested. Now, for what to do. If you like her and want to try something beyond friendship, you should take her out again and attempt to flirt back when she flirts with you... Simple stuff right? Well sometimes its a simple answer. She flirts, you're interested, you flirt back and take it from there.

Just enjoy each others company and live it up! You only live once, right? Then dammit go for it...I need help! 10 points best long answer?
25th March 2011 - 7pm



Hi Sean,



Just remember it is the quality of the answer you should be giving points to, not the longest.



She sounds as if she does like you very much and may well have been burnt so you are wise to takke things slowly.



Get to know her and explore what she likes and doesn;t like and take her on simple dates and if she is interested in you then she should be finding out the same about you.There is no reason why you can not talk about a more intimate relationship down the line and you can tell her where you stand and see what she thinks.



You can remind her about what she said about 'nightmares' and if she wants company and 'spooning' is a great cuddle position but let her set the pace as to how far to go.



Do you think she sees you as a prospective partner? I assume you have a solid job and you need to assure her you have a future.



Good luck and I hope things work out for you.



regards Mike D
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